Better Than I Imagined

I actually wrote this piece several years ago.  Today my son turns 20.  Twenty.  No longer a baby, no longer a boy scout, a dancer, or a teenager.  He is really and truly a man, and I couldn’t be more proud of him.

So take heart, my mama friends who struggle with kids who learn differently, kids who stretch you, who baffle you, who make you doubt your ability to do this momming gig.  Our Father’s got them.   And in His time, they will turn out to be far more than you dare to imagine…


Better Than I Imagined

My finger was bleeding.  As I watched the crimson bead form on my fingertip I wished, not for the first time, that I was more skilled with a sewing needle.  I reflexively put the injured digit in my mouth and looked down at the size 10 men’s ballet slipper resting in my lap.  I had to get the elastics on before my son’s next lesson.  Resuming my work, I smiled as I thought of all that had led to this rather surreal moment.  My son, the ballerina? 

I remembered when he was an infant and I would hold him in my arms, gazing into his tiny perfect face.  I had grand plans for this son of mine. I would take him out in the woods and teach him to hunt, shoot and whittle.  He would be athletic as well as studious.  In short, he would be everything I dreamed of in a son.

Aren’t God’s designs so much better than our own?

I thought back to his toddler years, showing empathy at an age the ‘experts’ declared was not normal.  I recalled the frustrating early days of homeschooling him when nothing would stick and the way he would happily keep trying.  I remembered how night after night, our tender-hearted boy would remind us to pray for an injured Sunday School teacher.

The memories continued to run like a slideshow in my brain.

Watching him run down the soccer field more intent on shouting encouragement to his teammates than on the kicking the ball.  Me, crying, when we got a diagnosis of learning disability and realizing that my son will struggle for the rest of his life.  Walking the neighborhood while he knocked on doors to raise money for his Boy Scout troop and having more than one person chase me down the street just to tell me what a fine young man I had there.

As those vignettes and so many more flooded my mind I felt profoundly thankful for this child of mine.  My son can’t spell to save his life and reading can be laborious for him, but he has so many offsetting gifts.  His strategy and problem solving skills are amazing.  He is intelligent, gentle, loving, and funny.  His warmth draws people in and makes them feel special.  His optimism even in the face of difficulty inspires me.

All in all, he is the most perfect gift the Lord could have given me in a son.  And he is not at all what I imagined he’d be.  My imaginings were so very small and superficial.  Isn’t it humbling how good and how big our God is?

“Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.”  Ephesians 3:20-21

If you had asked me all those years ago how I would feel if my son wanted to be a ballerina, I’d have looked at you like you had two heads.  But now, when he came to me and asked to dance because, “I want to get buff for my future wife, Mom!”  Well, let’s just say it was a no brainer.

“Are you done yet, Mom?” a deep voice spoke from the doorway.  I looked up at my growing boy and held out the shoes.  “All done,” I said as he leaned down and kissed me.  As he left the room to get ready for his dance class, I couldn’t help but chuckle.

My son, the ballerina.  Yeah.  I’m cool with that!

 

Your turn: Do you have a child who is not who you imagined they would be?  Do you resist changing your thought processes, or are you embracing their uniqueness?  Tell us about it in the comments!

*Just an FYI:  the proper term for a male ballet dancer would be ballerino or danseur.

Photo credit: featured image by AntonioDiaz at bigstockphoto.

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4 thoughts on “Better Than I Imagined

    • Oh, I love how you put that! I’m so glad too that our Father didn’t leave the molding up to me…how dull my children would have become! Lol! Thanks for swinging by, my friend! ❤

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  1. Those qualities you mentioned, Rebeca, (problem solving skills, intelligence, gentleness, love, sense of humor, etc.) are SO much more important than being able to spell–especially with Spellcheck just a finger-tap away. Our challenging child was high-energy, active (‘Found him on top of the refrigerator one day, eating the cookies hidden up there!), creative (Never got into mischief the same way twice), a master at breaking things (unintentionally) and messing things up (unknowingly). Today he’s a pastor–and a GOOD one, too! That high energy and creativity are coming in handy. Instead of breaking things, he’s become adept at fixing things–like electronics. And instead of making messes, he’s good at cleaning them up–like disorganized financial records. God most certainly did more than we could have possibly imagined when our little dynamo was careening through the house! (P.S. So glad to see you back in the blogosphere!!)

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    • Wow, it sounds like you had your hands delightfully full! What a lovely testimony to the intentional design our Father crafts our children with, yes? Too often we try to cram our kids into a predetermined mold, or medicate the energy out of them. (Though I recognize that some kids really do benefit from it…) It’s good to remember that our God had His own purposes for our kids’ lives. Thanks for sharing, Nancy! It’s always refreshing to ‘talk’ with you!! ❤

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